Do Chinese women over thirty date foreign men as a last resort?
In Chinese society, a woman who is still single in her thirties is practically a social outcast, it is almost impossible for them to find a Chinese man who wants them as a wife. It has also been an increasingly common phenomenon that Chinese women in their thirties end up looking for husbands among foreign men. Is the second reality the direct consequence of the first? Is the interplay of the two realities a lucky coincidence or an undesirable fate for these Chinese women?
These are the realities for thirty-something Chinese women: they have to find a thirty-something Chinese man (who also has to be older than them) who is still single and has the traditional qualifications of a suitable husband; this man, of course, must want or at least not care to be with a woman in her mid-thirties; Finally, her mother must also agree that her son does not have a partner who is still in his early twenties.
Having one of these possibilities for a thirty-something Chinese lady is already unlikely; all of them coming together is even more. So these women are looking for foreign men because they have no other choice?
The fact that most proper Chinese men in their thirties are already married and those who are still single prefer a younger partner (who, more often than not, must also have lower credentials) and actually rejecting women in their thirties (most of whom are self-made) has certainly made it possible for another door of opportunity to open wider for these women.
The saying “When one door closes, another opens” seems very true; and just as the saying has a positive context, the situation Chinese ladies of a certain age find themselves in is actually a positive turn of events.
Perhaps it began that these women only began to explore the possibilities of a relationship with a foreign man when they did not find what they were looking for within their borders; but it certainly only led them to realize that what appeared to be an unfortunate situation that had befallen them was actually a blessing in disguise.
The mere fact that men in their own culture do not take them and do not appreciate them shows that these men cannot even give them what they need in a relationship, which really means that these men are not the best option for them as partners.
Most thirty-something Chinese women who prefer a foreign partner today already know that these men actually make better partners than their Chinese counterparts, despite the cultural differences and language difficulties they will have to face. live through.
In addition, they have also realized that having that new door of opportunity open has given them the freedom to wait until they find the right man to marry, at the right time and for the right reasons. So, in fact, Chinese women in their thirties who choose to be with a foreign man do not do so because they are the last resort of these women; they do it because they are the best option of these women.
Saying that Chinese women of a certain age choose foreign partners because of a lack of better options in their society would be the same as saying that foreign men choose Chinese women as partners because they also lack better options in their own society.
To some extent, these claims are true. But it should be noted that Chinese women in their thirties aren’t just looking for foreign partners because no Chinese man would take them; the same goes for foreign men. For most of these men and women, their preference for a partner who comes from a different culture is more about appreciating and wanting what the other has to offer, and not because they are each other’s last resort.