Male Chastity Benefits
Contrary to popular perception, male chastity lies on a continuum with permanent male chastity and orgasm denial at one end, and mild chastity play at the other.
The benefits of male chastity for each point on the spectrum will depend on your own predilections and desires.
But while there will be some people at both extremes, most of us are somewhere in the middle. This is self-evident if you think about it, but if you check blogs and online forums, you will invariably come away with an unrealistic view, with the emphasis placed on those who claim the most extreme forms of chastity and denial.
Now why is this so important?
Well, to a large extent, the type of device or belt you end up with will be determined by where your own desires fall on this continuum (and remember, in part two of this Guide, I suggested you follow the result end in mind from the beginning).
This, in turn, will determine the depth and range of any male chastity benefits you can get from her.
For example, if you really just want to experience chastity play or maybe a week or so on one device, then something like the CB3000 might be appropriate. In some cases, devices like this are suitable even for prolonged use, but this is generally not the case and they tend to break after heavy use.
But if you want to experience the closest thing to total security you’re going to get, then a full belt, perhaps even the formidable Latowski, might be more appropriate.
We’ll come back to specific devices again elsewhere.
But for now, let’s see how to introduce the idea of a device to your partner.
It is important to tread carefully and take it as slowly as necessary. Remember, you’ve probably been thinking about this for a long time (maybe years), so not only do you know the subject inside out and have a good idea of where you want to end up, but there’s a good chance your partner is watching the whole thing. this through fresh eyes.
From their point of view, you’re suggesting something that they perceive could dramatically change your entire life and relationship, and that’s always scary. We humans do not like change, especially when it is not change that we have initiated.
At first glance, this sudden and dramatic change may not seem like a benefit at all, but it often can be if you both take things slow and rational.
Now, you will know your partner better than I do, so consider what I say through the filter of your own experience of what they like or dislike.
That said, perhaps the easiest and least threatening way to introduce a device is one of the simple plastic devices above.
If you are a man, then I recommend that you do not ask him to take charge from the beginning. Put it on and tell him from time to time how it feels to use it. As before, be more attentive and affectionate, but without being a hindrance.
Resist the urge to get lyrical about how much you wish she would take your keys and never let you out again. As I said before, this is new for her.
If you’re a woman, you can handle it the same way, only this time you hand over the responsibility along with the keys.
The point of all of this is to get them to feel comfortable with it. He wants life to continue as normal – he is showing them that this device is not making a huge difference in their lives all of a sudden and that, in fact, the sky is not about to fall apart.
Then, after a few days, you will want to repeat the romantic evening you had before; only this time, when you make love, you’ll keep the device on (or if you’re a woman, cajole him into agreeing to keep it on; again, depending on your partner and how you know them, promise to release either at the end of the session or the next morning).
And again, after you have made love, talk about your feelings and focus on the good things. If you mess something up, or if some parts just don’t work, just relax. It doesn’t have to be a big deal unless you decide to make it one.
Can you see the pattern?
We are taking things slowly, step by step, showing at each stage that there is nothing to fear and highlighting all the benefits.
The important thing to keep in mind is this: you have to SHOW him the benefits and not just TALK about them. She won’t believe they are real until she has experienced them for herself.
Unless you’re on the “chastity games only” side of the continuum (which is perfectly fine, since it’s your life and no one but you gets a vote), your ultimate goal for chastity is for your partner to have their wrench. – and that in itself can have many meanings, consequences and, of course, benefits.